We got a call early that morning that he had quit breathing. I never thought this, something so final. I guess I was thinking he was choked or something. Derick went to their house to check on them. I stayed home because I had been sick all morning. He had been gone for a while and I called. Derick talked a minute and then said he would see me in a few minutes. Never in his voice did he give it away. I assumed all was fine. Then he came home with the news. I only thought I felt sick that morning. No sooner than he said the words I ran to the bathroom. I'm the type of person who DOES NOT handle death well. No matter if it's a close relative, stranger, pet. I can't wrap my mind around it.
My heart hurt so bad. That baby was gone. What was Morgan thinking, how was Sandy, and what about Aunt Jimmie? I knew what I felt at that moment and I couldn't imagine being in their shoes. I know you aren't supposed to ask why? But in a way you can't help it. He was so young.
The funeral was heart breaking. There are no words to describe a baby's funeral. That was my first and I hope and pray that I never have to sit through that again.
Then there was telling the girls. Of course with Papa the girls knew older people pass away. But I never wanted to have to tell them that could happen to a baby. They took it a lot better than what I thought. I still don't think they understand it all.
But the main reason I wanted to post this was because of the money issue. Zaidyn like many children had no life insurance. The funeral home was so very gracious enough to offer their complete services free. All they wanted was the restocking fee of the casket which was $150.00.
But the burial was the problem. It was going to cost $1400.00 to bury that precious baby.
As I sat there and thought about this situation. I wanted to help anyway I could. I watched Morgan and Sandy and couldn't even speak a word. My heart was broken for them and it seemed as if my mouth was sealed shut. I would think about what to say to them but as soon as I got around them, I froze.
What could I say?
I don't know what they are going through!
It was then that night that I talked with Derick and said we have to do something to help. Derick went the next day and started a fund at Suntrust in Zaidyn's name. We wanted to help but wasn't sure what we could accomplish. Derick also went to the funeral home and talked with them. It was then that they gave us a total on what they thought we would need to have his services.
Then we prayed. It's sad to say that it took this for me to pray that hard. But I never remember praying for something so hard and long. It's almost like I prayed constantly Thursday and Friday. We had the account but people couldn't deposit anything until Friday morning. So we thought we would have all day Friday and Saturday to raise the money. Late Thursday we got the call that all money had to paid by 1:00 Friday.
How were we going to do this? Well all I can say is we didn't! The Lord really worked some miracles! At 8:00 Friday morning we had $85! We called everyone we could think of and then they called people they knew and the chain started rolling. I'm not sure who gave and where the money came from. But the Lord knows! By 1:00 that day we were able to give the family $1130 of the $1400 needed.
When also found out that someone had paid for the funeral home's small fee. But the people weren't done giving yet. The account kept getting deposits all weekend and still is. We were able to get over $3200 for the family. So I want to thank you if you gave money, or cooked food for the funeral, or just prayed a prayer. I hope I never have to face a situation like this, but I'm so glad and thankful that we still have so many loving, caring, helpful people out there!
Mindy, I just wanted to say thank you for everything you done for us. You are a good person and I don't know what we would have done without you and Derick. I love ya'll. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. I cry everyday because I miss him so much. I cry even harder when I see my own kid is so much pain. Words can ever express how I feel. I just pray that God will give me peace. How do I find peace in this I will never know. But on thing that I do know is after Zaidyn died I didn't sleep knowing that I couldn't lay that sweet baby to rest with his family like he should be. It would have killed me. That why I am so Thankful to you and Derick. It would have not happenend without yall. I thank God everyday that I have people in my life like ya'll. I know my life will never be the same. Just when you pray ask God for peace for my family. Again Thanks and Love ya'll
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